How To Compromise On Your Guest List

How To Compromise On Your Guest List

Deciding on a final guest list for your wedding day can become an interesting and stressful task. It may take much patience and negotiation for all involved. How do you make it as simple as possible? Combine four seperate lists. The bride and groom each make a separate list and each set of parents should make a list. When making the list don't feel obligated to invite someone just because they may be offended if you invite another friend or relative and not them. If you have a friend or relative that you know in advance could be a potential problem on your special day simply do not add them to the list. If you can't decide if you should invite someone or not ask yourself this question: Would I take $100 our of my pocket and lay it in this person's hand and say "Go to a concert or go to dinner"? If you can't say you would do that for the person then don't invite them. You are paying for them to attend a special event. Is it rude? Some may think that it is, but the fact of the matter is that it's reality.The bride's mother must talk to the groom's mother about the number of invitations that will be available for the groom's parents to send, taking into consideration their financial contribution. If both families live close to each other, the lists can be divided evenly. When the groom's family lives in a different city or state, the number of invitations made available may be reduced, since the probability of attendance from the groom's family and friends may be reduced. If both families know each other, there is also the possibility of double listing mutual friends. In this case, the invitations should be divided evenly. If the groom's family wishes to invite more people than the number originally agreed upon, they should discuss this with the bride's family. If the number cannot be increased, the groom's family may offer to share the costs or host a separate reception after the honeymoon. Remember COMPROMISE, COMPROMISE, COMPROMISE.